Old Friends & Breakdown


“It’s all right if you love me.  It’s all right if you don’t.”  I’ve been listening to a lot of Tom Petty this week….however, I was not expecting Baby Blue to breakdown on the way to Quinn’s last soccer game of the season.  I pulled into Tallahassee FL to see my adorable friend Daphne who I have known since junior high school.  She has twin boys and a girl, Quinn.

Being with old friends is like an archaeological dig of your soul.

Daphne and I were high school friends and went off to ASU in Boone together.  We were naïve.  She left to go to NCSU, I left and went to UNC Chapel Hill.  I couldn’t handle the loading at UNC…deciding to take latin, calculus, and every freaking hard class they had to offer in one semester…so I just stopped going.  Daphne and Muzzy and I rented a Jartran truck and packed our possessions and drove to Boston.  We picked up Muzzy’s boyfriend along the way and ended up staying at his frat house until we could find an apartment.  We didn’t know you had to have a job to sign a lease, so we had to quickly find a job.  The only thing we could find were busgirls at a high end touristy restaurant at Faneuil Hall.  We felt a glimmer of what it must be like to be stereotyped and discriminated against ….two young girls with southern accents.  Let’s just say, we hung out with the dishwashers, not the waiters and bartenders.  Management hardly spoke to us and it was humbling.  Made us pretty sure that we needed to return and get our degrees from college.

So many experiences with Daphne…somehow the two of us together = much more trouble than just 1 + 1.  (This would be off-blog discussion)

Breaking down in Tallahassee allowed me to do several things:

1.  Give up control
2.  Slow down
3.  Learn basketball technique from Simon and Ollie, twin 10 year olds
4.  Go to a kundalini yoga class and focus on the crown chakra…Cathy Holt and the Divas would be proud!
5.  Work on being in the present, not the past or the future
6.  Have some great talks catching up with Daphne and her husband.
7.  Meet the great neighbors from Canada and help in the co-parenting.
8.  Rest and even breathe a little
9.  See the co-op in Tallahassee
10.  Trust in the Universe

Evidently the bolts sheared off that held the axle to the body of Baby Blue, thanks to a very nice tow truck operator and two very sweet mechanics, and a call to Sean @ Transporter Werks, we are back on the road.

Next stop is St. George Island, Florida on the Gulf of Mexico.



About tamischwerin

I run a non-profit (Abundance NC) that builds community resilience including health of the earth, our bodies and our spirits. I also am active in creating an Eco-Industrial Park community in Pittsboro NC.

7 responses »

  1. Sorry to hear about your Uncle Bob.

    Love your blog. You do a lot more soul searching than I did on my sabbatical. Mine was about rest and new experiences. Don’t forget the rest part – looks like you are covered on the new experience part part though. Florida sounds wonderful compared to the minus 19 C forecast for tomorrow. Have fun and take care. Glen.


  2. Oh No!! Breakdown on the road in an old camper – sounds familiar. :O)
    Love your blog. Mind if I quote your archeological dig of the soul comment? Love it!!


  3. Tami, this sounds great! Loved hearing the Daph & Tam stories, too. I’m so glad that you were able to catch up w/Daphne. Thanks for sharing your great adventure with all of us. I look forward to seeing more very soon.

    I’ll pray for enjoyable & safe travels for you & Baby Blue. As Daddy used to say, “Be good.” 😉

    sara 🙂


  4. Tami- we miss you already. So interesting that I feel that I’ve changed so much from that girl at app state and boston, yet find that I still have so much in common with you. We’ve changed in parallel ways! Thank you for including us in your journey! I really appreciate it! And hi muzzy! And Sara ! I hope you’re both doing well!


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